Things I don't believe in.

i can hardly maintain long distance friendships, let alone thinking of trying to maintain a long term love relationship. i think it's a really good thing to know your emotional limitations, especially when it comes to how you might act affects other people. you're a very special person. :)

You're doing the right thing, Shigeki-san. Its too hard. You wish he's there with you, sharing your life. And he can't be. Nothing you can both do about it. Besides, I think you're not really into Harvard.. w
Hang on in there. In the meantime, remember that a friendship is not a consolation prize.

Just wanted to say how much I admire you for having the courage to be honest with Mr. Harvard. So many times I have been in relationships with chickenshits who have used the silent treatment to let me know they weren't interested anymore. I hope you will be rewarded for your honesty with another Mr. Wonderful who lives in Tokyo! *MUWAH!!!!!*

On a different note, did you see any ghosts in Scotland? I hear that's a pretty haunted country.

Well it's kind of hard to maitain such relationships indeed..."Away from the eye away from the heart" or soemthing like that! but then again there's always doubt? what is he doing now? is he alone? he went out clubbing? he might meet someone closer to him? blablabla..it's too much to cope with...ow he didnt call me today? should i call him? oh i called him yesterday? ow it's getting expensive! i miss him...i miss his eyes, his ass, his ...ow and his smell how can i smell him again? when shall we see each other agin? he promised he would come...but unfortunatly he didnt? should i wait for him more? and i cant go either i have my exmas? my work or my life! ow should i go out tongiht to? this guy at the gym is looking at me...ow but this wouldnt be right? lets end it...nv

I feel a little sad for him. Just a little. I don't know if you'd be willing to share your supernatural experiences with us. I would trully appreciate hearing your "obake" stories. Bet they would be fun and intersting to read. Today, Sunday, I now sort of know what it can be like living in Japan, another active volcano region. I was scared.
Lane

I'd be a bit confused by someone asking for a long distant relationship based on that single one night fuck? That's what I find freaky. It's one thing to date for a few weeks, months or years and then have to face a long distant relationship when one of the people has to move away, but to consider it after one night -- yikes, now that's scary for Halloween :)

I don't know anyone whoever made a long distance relationship work either!

Keep looking for Mr. Right! I'm sure that he's out there for you!! :)

hmmmm i understand actually how one night. one super fantastic night. or even three hours that are just different in their quality and in what gets said and what gets done, can make you consider a long distance relationshp. or can make you consider ... well.... options. it happened to me and it's a bit scary. The only thing is that at 36 i'm less likely to be swayed by it more likely to just turn away sadly and sigh and get on with things.

You're right about the relationship, but what I really want to say is how much I love the pics you post from 35,000 ft. I just love them.

Must be Mr Harvard eh? But that is so sweet!! He could move to Tokyo and be with you!! Wouldn't this be good for you???
Anyway, decisions are decisions but for Love anything is possible whether is a one night fuck or not!! At least he cares but with life being so short - if he is the one. So be it. Anyway have fun for the rest of the week. I'm not looking forward towards another day of hell for me!!

I agree with you, long distance relationship are to much work and most of the time they don't work out. Unless the guy has plans to move to my area I don't even bother.

And you say, you're not hot!! :-) Others beg to differ it seems.

It does sound a little weird though, after one nite, he wants a relationship.
Thank goodness you don't live in Boston, he might have ended up being a stalker.

Toyko is a big city, I'm sure there is someone out there perfect for you. And you seem to have the right attitude about waiting for him. Don't settle for less. :-)

BTW, I had a patient in today that I *think* is gay. His mother has been trying to set us up (In her own discreet way) but neither of us is biting.
The funny thing is, is that after his appointment I was talking about toothbrushes and he said he had a power brush. And he said it was FANTABULOUS. I said, "what"? Just to hear him say FANTABULOUS again.

He might be good looking, but he's no Shigeki. (^ ^

Not to mention the frustration (sexual and that emotional longing for a physical presence) that comes along with it. I was in a long distance relationship for 2 years until I moved here to experience the real thing. So far so good.

Hmmm, someone fell for Shigeki! :-) That's very very nice. Pity though that you're continents apart, I guess.

Hi Naomi,

Since I have friends in other countries, maintaining long distance friendships cannot be too hard. But I don't call them closest friends obviously. :-) I thiink I am too lazy to try something hard. I am a very special person? :-) Thankee. You have a wonderful Tuesday!

Hi Colin,

Well, I am not quite sure if I wish he was here with me. That would be too much. I think it's more likely I don't wanna do anything about it does sound right. :-) You have a wonderful Tuesday!

HI GaijinGirl,

Um... I don't know I wanted to make thinigs clear to myself as well. I don't wanna do that "Let it boil for 30 minutes and we will come back to that" stuff. To be honest, I don't see myself dating anybody as long as I have this job. So i am quitting soon, hopefully. Well, not only in Scotland, I see them almost everytime I am on the road. :-) You have a wonderful Tuesday!

Hi Envyspot,

I assume you have gone through something long distance relationship thingy? I guess I am not committed after all. well, if my boyfriend (if I have one) does things behind my back with other dudes without me knowing them, that would be totally okay is my attitude when I was in a relationship actually. :-) You have a wonderful Tuesday!

Hi LaneO,

Well, I don't know it could be kinda lengthy and explaining things in English is the hardest thing to do. But I could give it a shot some time soon since it's Halloween. :-) I am so sorry about the earthquake but we experienced the similar one last week in the very early morning. But I hope everything is okay with you!! Honolulu is still there, right? I cannot live without honolulu just like the rest of Japanese. :-) You have a safe wonderful Tuesday!

HI Steve,

Well, to be honest, there were more things than that. But true it'd be too freaky to go for a realtionship after two days. I wouldn't do that. That was another part I didn't wanna go for. However, I must tell you I met my ex in a very filthy place and eventually turned out to be a 8 year realtionship :-) well, we didn't do the long distance part though. Do you think it's still scary? You have a wonderful Tuesday!

HI Hanuman1960,

The thing is I am not agressively looking for him at this point. huh... I am so thinking I might have gotten too comfy to be single. I don't know. :-) But thanks. If he is out there, I hope he is still available! You have a wonderful Tuesday!

Hi Mark,

I don't know. I just don't think it's too relasitc for me to do that thing over 6000 miles. But turning it down and sigh deeply are the better things to do than going for it. Life is too short after all. :-) Yup, it can be very scary coz it takes more time to find out if you are good matches. :-) That's not convenient. You have a wonderful Tuesday!

Hi Thomasco,

Oh, the photo was not a good one among other photos I took during the flight but I thought it illustrates how far it would be to carry on the long distance thingy. :-) thanks though. You have a wonderful Tuesday!

hi Ian,

It's so sweet? hmmmm... If he moved to Tokyo to be with me, I'd totally run away. nope. That's so not something I want. He actually told me he would come over here but I told him no. What good can come out of this? ;-) I hope your hell is not too much this week! You have a wonderful Tuesday!

Hi Cesar,

But some are carryin on long distance relationships. I just cannot see how it's doable at least for me... That's one of magic that I don't have? Even if the guy has plans to move to the area, I would still say no. It's like the guy you met on the ski slope in the middle of winter looks better on the ski slope but when you see him in a city, he doesn't. sorta thing. :-) You have a wonderful Tuesday!

Hi Maggie,

I guess what he exactly wanted to say was he wanted to date me on a regular basis. I just don't even know the difference between long distance relationships and long distance whatever. :-) But it's still long distant for sure. Well, I don't think I am pretty much ready for anything except for quick fucks so I guess I will stick with them for a little more while. :-) You think? Well, he used the word Fantabulous. So he is 100% gay. :-) You interact with a good looking gay guy at work? I guess I chose the wrong profession. :-( But thanks. I am just a little below the average type. yup. You have a wonderful Tuesday!

Hi Mark,

Wow, 2 years? wow.... Well, on the bright side, you are a lot younger than I am so I can kinda understand. And I am glad it worked out well for you. But I don't think I ccould go for the similiar thing. I want something that I want up front and immediately. :-) You have a wonderful Tuesday!

I tried the long distance thing too, he lives in Switzerland. It didn't work out of course, but we are still friends.

TK