2...The same night, I went drinking with a real homo of homos. He told me I was living in a lie because I am not out to anybody at work. He told me I was chicken. Now, he is not a corporate slave. He is out to everybody. It's easy for him to say that. But to me, I don't see myself working comfortable if I disclose my homoness at work. I live in Japan and I don't think homos are very accepted here. Should I still be out to live proudly I am sorry if I am too chicken then. But his saying is still bothering me today... Yeah, fine, I am a liar then.
3...So the deadline to reply my acceptance to the grad school is getting close. I am GLAD to report you I am not going. I think I'd love to spend more energy on something I am interested in while my life is more stable. I don't have to worry about how I earn money and how I will end up. My motto for my thirties is to enjoy my private time. Yes, the current job doesn't let me do that much but things are going to change. :-)
4...Have you ever had live octopus? I had it for the first time in my life yesterday. I am glad I wasn't surrounded by Green Peace people. It was creepy. But I didn't cry because I am supposed to be a guy. I might've cried on the inside. It was yummy though. It was like a weird fuck that you actuallyl liked. :-) Have a fantabulous day!
Did you find out the info you wanted on Babs and Star? There is this blogsite, The Malcontent, that post clips from different television programs. Sometimes this is the only way I get to know what is currently happening. Sorry, my current capabilities is limited to copy and pasting addresses so if you're still curious you can take a peek..
The announcement from Barbara Walters: www.malcontent.biz/video/view-starfire-hi.wmv
Then Star's response on Larry King Live: http://www.malcontent.biz/video/star-on-larry-king-hi.wmv
You can find the malcontent at http://www.malcontent.biz/blog Lane
K...let's handle this in order.
1.) You had down time, no big deal. Don't think that your time is wasted, because sometimes you just need a break from everything.
2.) So you're not out at work. I COMPLETELY understand. I'm not either. I work in a very rural community. If these parents found out that their kids' teacher was gay, my life could be in danger, and so could my job. What you do in this situation is YOUR business. Your friend just needs to mind his own damn business. Tell him I said so. ;)
3.) You do what you think is best in this situation. We all have things we'd like to do, but sometimes, we can't. Whatever you do, you'll find your happiness when you least expect it.
4.) Again, don't know that I'd like the live octopus, but I can relate to the "weird fuck". And you know, you've been mentioning that a great deal lately. Are you needing to get laid???? Honey, I SOOO understand.
Ok I'm done now.
if you're happy with your decision to not do grad school, then that's all that counts. i'm glad you're ok with your decision.
being out is a very personal decision that other people can't make. it also doesn't make you a liar. you know your work situation and the people there far better than your friend does. also, he's not the one who has to work in the environment you do. not coming out can be a very wise decision. besides, when you get down to it, who you have sex with, whether male or female, is none of anyone's business but you and the person involved.
i don't like cooked octopus, i haven't had it dead while raw. but i can't see myself liking more alive than i do cooked. i much prefer squid. but i've never had that live either, just yummy raw. :) then again, it's been a while since I last had octopus. i might like it now.
I having the same experince as you for the grad school. Few years back, I decided to discontinue my grad school which I have completed half way. :) and start working till now. I am sure you always can go to one when you are ready. Have a fantabulous day to you!
I think being out to everybody is easier said than done, and sometimes, it doesn't even matter.
I consider myself out, but I don't tell my grandmother, aunts, etc. There are some people who you may love, but don't see often enough that there is really no reason to tell. And besides, it's not like you when you meet someone, you say 'Hi, I'm Shigeki. How are you. I'm gay', lol.
I'm sure your friend was just looking out for your best interests, though. Hope you didn't take offense.
Being out at work is a personal choice, and everyone's situation is different. There's also degrees of being out... I don't deny it or do anything to hide it, but I also don't parade around the office draped in a rainbow flag...
1) Why did you waste an hour of your precious life on THEM?!!
2) I'm always amazed at people who think that they know what's best for other people as far as coming out is concerned! What nerve! I'm out at work, but, I live in Massachusetts. If I lived in Alabama I think it would be very different...
3) You chose what was best for you. Don't look back...
4) Eew. Ack. Ack. I'm not going to comment because I value our cyber-friendship too much. :(
1. Star Jones... what the?
2. I just read a Tokyo Pink Guide which said "despite the mass market, the life of an o-kama in the late 20th century is not one that most are eager to display. For most gays, their true sexual identity remains a secret from friends, co-workers, family - even wives. This Pink Guide was published in 1993 and so even 13 years after, gays in Japan stilll face the same fate, huh?
3. I wish you all the best in looking for that something perfect for you!
4. I watched an Amazing Race episode where a gay couple chose to eat freshly chopped octopus - tentacles moving and sticking to their inner cheeks! Good God!
Let's work in order like the rest of your readers!
1. Huh?? What were you doing research on Star Jones and Barbara Walters for?? I'm sure you're have better things to do than reading articles about their feuds!! Like spending time with your hot date?
2. So to be OUT or not to be OUT is a personal choice. Your good friend is out - good for him! But that doesn't mean you're a liar. At least you're accepting of yourself!! In comparison to you...I'm a big liar. So where do I fit on the scale in terms of liar!! 10 out of 10 :-)
3. As long as you're comfortable with your decision. Move on! You're on the roll as a 30 year old!!
4. Live Octopus = Wierd Fuck?? Hmmm....that's interesting analogy!
Ah, welcome to the tako odorigui club! I only had a skinny tentacle, but it was horrible to have to pick it up with my fingers because I couldn't do it with chopsticks. The suckers stuck to my fingers, but I was very careful not to let them touch my cheeks or tongue. I lost count of the number of times I had to chew before I could swallow, but you're right--it's YUMMY!
Although I'm not gay, I think I feel a similar dilemma about being bipolar in Japan. I am very open about my condition in the US, especially because it helps me monitor my condition (sometimes I don't realize when I am being manic), but I haven't been in Japan because there is still such a huge stigma about psychiatry and mental illness. There is also some stigma in the US, but I've yet to experience a negative reaction when telling people. If anything, they open up to me about mental illness in their family.
All in all, coming out is a private decision, and your homo of homos friend should be a bit more sensitive and less judgemental about how you choose to live your life!
Shigeki- In my humble opinion, being out is a personal choice and non of your superhomo's business. Not everyone is into turning their life into a political statement. Octopus is really good. I have eaten it at Spanish restaurants and when prepared well, is very tasty :-) gregg
live octopus! i've only seen ppl eat it on tv. looks quite terrifying. i'd be afraid i'd choke on it. and die... but i might be game for a lonely tentacle. :) tata.
There's a great scene in the S. Korean movie "Old Boy" where the main character eats a live octupus. It would never be allowed in an American movie because of animal rights laws. The only "live" tentacles I put in my mouth are attched to a body with only four other limbs, not 7 -- and with just one "suction cup" if the, ah, tentacle has a foreskin :)
Come out of the closet as far as makes you comfortable and is safe.
Damn you for not going to art school! But, you still have to draw/paint my portrait -- shall I send photos from which you can accomplish the task? :)
We have an expression in English (in Canada, at least): "Fucking the dog. " It means to do "nothing" instead of any work you should be doing. In a sentence it would sound like this: "Shigeki fucked the dog for an hour yesterday surfing the web." It can have postiive or negative connotations, the phrase. My example sentence used the expression positively. All of us need to find time to just fuck the dog more often, to relax and find out what Barbara and Star are sticking in each others' eyes this particular moment...
Oh, I forgot, I have had live octopus. It was actually live BABY octopus, a Korean delicacy. YOu dip them into 'gochujang', that mildy spicy Korean sauce and eat them. The tentacles come out of your mouth and try to stick to your cheeks, I'm totally serious.
It actually tasted pretty good, but I found the whole thing disturbing. Still, it's good to experience new things :-)
Hi Lane,
I am not sure what I was looking for but it was somehow very entertaining at that moment. :-) Thanks for the links. I am sure that TV program is not too entertaining but I happen to watch that when I run at the gym when I am on a biz trip in the States. :-) You have a fantabulous day!
Hi JaSoN,
Thank you for handling this in order. ;-) The way he told me how I am not at work was almost one of the worst things that could ever happen on this planet. At least, he said so. :-* But I think everyone has a different standard so I guess I am okay with my decision but it was bothering me still. Yes, I need to get laid so badly. Can't you tell? :-) You have a fantabulous day!
Hi Naomi,
Yes, I don't think I will be able to be broke and be a shitty artist so I took the safer route which I am actually happy with. :-) When I was talking to him and his frined the other night, I almost felt like I went to the different world. Because how I am not out at work is so disgraceful according to them. That was shocking. I had to write it. :-( I think I will be in the closet at my current work. yes. You have a fantabulous day!
Hi Lifebook98,
I didn't even go to the school. ;-) I mean my head would explode if I had to study more. Just undergrad study is good enough for me. :-) There are times that my brain is draining from the ears. :-) Considering that, I think I saved myself. :-) You have a fantabulous day!
Hi Fashmagslag,
I think the sexual "preference" (not that I deicded to prefer) should play the role in there but somehow this friend of mine thought something like that. huh... I didn't take offense...well, I might have gotten offended a little bit but I think I am doing what I think is best. so I will be in the closet. :-) You have a fantabulous day1
Hi T.Kevin,
I am like you. I don't deny it. When I have to say I had a date, I always refer the date as "this person". :-) I have never lied on that part. ;-) Well, I am not sure if I want any of those rainbow thingies. they don't go well with my outfit. :-) You have a fantabulous day!
Hi Hanuman 1960,
I dunno. I guess I was really obsessed with it. They were almost demanding me to come out at work. That was brutal but I think I am not gonna. I mean it may not be the great decision for him but it is for me. I mean I don't wanna get ew-ed for unnecessary reasons. :-) Sorry, I offended you with the live octopus stuff. But you see it was the truth.... You have a fantabulous day!
Hi Mark,
um... to be precise, I am not an o-kama (drag-queen or the person who speaks with a femine way) :-) Yes, i am a homo but never that. :-) Well, my true sexual identity was accidentaly disclosed to my parents so huh. :-) Yeah, it's pretty much the same but I think it's slight more accepted than it was back in 1993 for sure. But I was out to my parents in 1993... :-) You have a fantabulous day!
Hi Ian,
I was researching on them to fulfill my curiousity, I guess. :-) I know it's dumb but I had to do it. Otherwise, I would have died. :-) Well, as long as you don't touch coworkers' boobs, you are in a better place even if you are in the closet. :-) Thanks for working in order:-) How deligent. :-) Live Octopus. yes. it was truly weird and scary. :-) You have a fantabulous day!
Hi GaijinGirl,
The octopus I had waas a different kind actually. It was "mizudako" so they were very tiny. You just chew the whole thing before they bite the inside of your mouth. It was scary actually. But it was tastey. I'd never try that though. :-) Well, I wasn't out at work back in the Netherlands even though gayness is so much more accepted there. I guess I just don't really mind whether I am or not. If I am forced to be out, there it is. :-) You have a fantabulous day!
Hi Gregg,
Thanks for your support. I feel the same way even if it doesn't mean to back up my thoughts. I don't wanna make myself feel more uncomfortable than I already am. :-) It's just work anyway. The cooked Octopus is so much better than the raw. really. I'd love to have some of those Spanish thingies but then I barely get to have them here in Tokyo as I always stick with japanese mostly. ;-* You have a fantabulous day!
HI Tiptup,
Yeah, it was really scary but the rule was "chew it before you are bitten". That concept doesn't sound appealing.... huh... You have a fantabulous day!
Hi Steve,
oh, animal rights laws.... I think they exist here but they are not as strict as Italian laws. :-) Well, to tell you the truth, the programme I got accepted is not "drawing" so I guess I will never be good at that. I have never drawn any portrait. All I do is those pencil thingies. But it could be fun. :-) And thanks for the English lesson. I am not sure if I will ever use that one. :-) You have a fantabulous day!
Hi again, Fashmagslag,
I think that's exactly what I had the other day....
You are not a chicken for not being out at work. It is your life and you should live it the way you want. Screw everyone who tries to force their beliefs on you.
Oh geez, I should've done more research. Didn't know an o-kama is a drag queen or an effeminate gay man. I know you are neither one. You're a hot stud! :-)