It's a national holiday here today. Culture day. We are supposed to spend some time to do something culture? I have no idea. :-) Anyway, I got up as usual and realized today was the day I don't have to work since.... I have no idea.... I mean I usually had to work on a holiday so I was too excited that i didn't have to. My idea of dating in Autumn would be drive around or walk around in the city where we can feel autumn. We went to this restaurant in the park. Nice brunch at the terrace with a cool breeze. The guy didn't seem happy at all even though the meal was delish. So I had to ask him as he doesn't really say what he feels inside, and the first thing he said was "Is your work more important than me?" Okay, I did not see that coming. I mean I thoguht I'd hear this kind of a dramatic line only from a daytime soap opera. does it have to be one way or the other? Anyway, to summurize, he doesn't like the idea of me working too much and wants to see me
EVERY FUDGING DAY. That's overwhleming right there. It's been only a little over a month.... I told him that I wanted to move forward slowly if possible and my work was important but couldn't compare that with him. And he left before he finished his benedictine before the nice coffee and the dessert. I didn't really say wait up or anything. I let him go. I didn't need any drama in the middle of the fabulous brunch. I sipped a cup of coffee alone and saw people walking by. It was still a great day. Now, I think I need to call him.... huh... I am sure my phone number is already blocked on his cell by now but I shall... um... is this how it should go after a month? Anyway, you have a fabulous Thursday!
awww, just go with the flow shigeki. and everything will turn out fine. =) you have a great weekend ahead y'hear!
Just say no to drama!
Leaving before dessert is so unnecessary.
I've been dating John for over 4 months, and we don't see each other every day. That's too much for me now. And it would be *way* too much after only a month.
I'm glad you stayed to enjoy your coffee :-)
*smoooooooch*
Considering that I immerse myself into relationships bigtime, I can't fathom how somebody would not wanna see a boyfriend/girlfriend every day, even if just for a few minutes, especially after one month. I'd at least try to get in a quick phone call or something when I could.
(I'm totally looking for life partners, you see, instead of temporary quick fixes. ;-) )
Oh my. If this drama ensued only on your first month of dating, what more when you've gone further down the road, where of course work inevitably comes in the way?
Or maybe he's just so into you that it hurts him to see that he only comes in second (does he, really?). You see, I am as confused as you are. Ugh!
Well, you should wait for him to call, since he committed the deal breaker by walking out on you. Where's the gentleness and affection in that? In any case, I hope he calls and you have a great weekend!
Sorry to hear about the lunch date that blew up. Glad you kept your cool and enjoyed your coffee anyway. I got my dose of culture by watching a koto concert on NHK. Later in the afternoon, I watched the hunky Satoru Harada win his first national kendo title. He's a police officer in Asakusa if you want to see him in the flesh... He can beat me with his bamboo pole any time!!!!! ;D
It's a holiday here in Malaysia too! Second day of the Muslim's Eid celebration.
ANyway sounds like you really landed yourself a drama mama. But I guess it just shows he's into you. But you know I'd be pretty frustrated if a guy I was dating worked such weird hours...but I wouldn't put it in that way. It's so unfair to make you choose your work over him?! It's totally different things! I think he should see that even though you work so much and have so little free time for yourself you still manage to see him.
I hope all goes well! He better be VERY cute for all thise drama to be worth it.
DOn't know what the rest of the world does but I sleep when i don't have to work.
Paul
shigeki- That's a lot of drama for a month of dating. Would he really block you cell phone number? For me, blocking my calls would be a deal breaker on the dating. On the other hand, walking out on dessert is a little too impulsive for even me. Communication is so critical to a successful relatoinship. Sounds like he has trouble in that department. -gregg
Hi Ash,
hmmm... If I go with the flow, I might fudge it up. Better yet, I already have fudged it up. Anyway, thanks for stopping by and you do have a great weekend!
Hi EnviroBoi,
I know! The dessert was damn good and I am sorry that he missed it because of his temper. OH yeah, it would be too much to see him every day. I could do that after three years but not after a month like you said. :-) Thanks for stopping by and you have a fabulous weekend!
Hi Logan,
I hear you. hehehe. Well, I consider this phase as not an exclusive relationship so I don't really see it the way you do. Of course, I don't hide my agenda at all, you know. :-) Some friends say I am not a marrying kind. That might be true... Anyway, I hope you will run into the great guy whom you derserve! You have a fantabulous weekend!
Hi Mark,
Good prediction, dude! That's what I firstly thought after he left. But I didn't get into too deep thought on that one. I am not certain if he is into me. I already got bashed by some queer friends of his already. Anyway, thanks for your insight. You have a fantabulous weekend!
Hi GaijinGirl,
Well, I was glad I was able to have the best dessert ever I had this year. :-) So I am not really sorry. Thanks for the info. Whenever I go to Asakusa next time, I will be on full alert to look for a hot cop. AND THANK YOU VERY VERY MUCH for your kind gift! You have a fantabulous weekend!
Hi Will,
Yay for a holiday over there, too! Well, I don't think he is that into me. I can tell from what I experienced this morning... I know I seem to be a workaholic right now but I have other things I can do, you know. It's not like I am working 24/7 but... Oh yes, the thing is he is not cute. nope. He is HANDSOME. you see the difference? Anyway, thanks for your thoughts and you have a fantabulous weekend!
Hi Paul,
Hehehe. That's something I can't do when I don't have to work. I always get up at the usual time and just do some things. :-) But it's good to get some more sleep while you don't have to work. :-) Thanks for stopping by and you have a great weekend!
Hi Gregg,
I know, it's defintely a deal breaker! I called his phone and the robot like lady from an automated message thingy told me "Due to a receiver's condition, your call cannot be placed" thing. Oh well. I did all the things I could do to him to get this back on track but it didn't work. So I will just let the whoel thing go. Thanks for stopping by and you have a fantabulous weekend!
Shigeki- Sorry you got blocked. This guy appears to have some serious issues. I you find someone that is better suited to you. -gregg
Sorry about psycho guy. I had the same experience a while back. The guy was insulted and incredulous that I wanted to spend one Friday night at home by myself instead of being with him. That was the end of that.